Che passed by a few times to buy things and the next thing I knew was that we were in a relationship. A few months into the relationship, he told my parents he wanted to sponsor my university education from his taxi business savings and profits. My parents were very excited and I couldn’t wait to start school.
Che often came to visit me in Buea and we had a very strong relationship. During my last year I met Daniel (not real name) and instantly fell for him. This made me realise that I was not really in love with Che but instead felt gratitude for everything he had done for me. I told Daniel about Che. He was not very happy at first but told me to tell Che my true feelings because it was unfair to keep him hopeful. And if he would ask for all the money he had spent to be refunded, Daniel would offer me support. Daniel was from a wealthy home. His family was in the France and he was schooling and controlling the family businesses at the same time.
I was planning to open up to Che during the Christmas holidays but before I could muster the courage to go ahead, he had already asked my dad for my hand in marriage. Daniel wants to marry me, too, and is getting impatient. I love him and don’t want to lose him. However, I am so worried about hurting Che since he has been nothing but kind to me. Yet I don’t want to marry out of pity or gratitude. Che deserves a woman who will love him for who he is and not for the things he has done for her.
I don’t know what to do, please help me!